I realized that with all the the negative thoughts I was having, I was experiencing my life’s events behind a fog. Learning to become a positive thinker has been very hard, but I know that becoming more positive will lead to new and healthy experiences. Here are a few of the things I’m doing now to become a more positive, and happier me:
Learning to Forgive
I’ve learned that it’s not worth my time to dwell on things that are already done and that I need to become stronger in order to learn to forgive. Forgiveness is still very hard for me but it will allow for me to move on from both mine, and others’ mistakes. Happiness and positive experiences are going to be impossible to come by if I’m still holding onto to the past.
I’m aware that learning to be grateful is key to becoming a more positive person and I work on it everyday by writing down 3 things I’m grateful for that day. If you’re reading my work right now be happy you have a computer; the internet! Be grateful for what you already have because I believe it’s a privilege to live this way.
It’s easy to wish for things, but the first step is to take responsibility for my feelings and take the initiative to make positive things happen. With my depression and anxiety, I can easily stay inside all day and hide from the world and not feel like I’m missing anything. Yet, on the other hand I know I’m the only one responsible for my feelings and that yes, things can go wrong sometimes but I can make them better. And if I don’t like how I feel now, I need to take the initiative and change something.
I’m not one for starting drama but I don’t do anything to stop it either from happening around me. Eliminating drama from my life starts with ditching those that add unnecessary stress to my life. I should be happy and filled with gratitude, not dealing with petty drama.
Surrounding Myself With Supportive People
Once I let go of those drama-filled people from my life, I also need to start surrounding myself with positive and supportive people. Making new friends is hard for me so I started out with reaching out to those 1 or 2 people that I already wanted more of in my life. To become a more positive thinker, I’m more selective with who I let into my life.
Setting Aside “Me” Time
As an introvert, I need time to recharge and relax by myself in order to be “on” and positive for when I spend time with other people. I take personal time to just slow down and reflect in my own thoughts. Sometimes, I relax through writing, sometimes meditation – just depends on how I feel that day; whatever makes me happy.
Thinking optimistically is thinking positively and I’ve learned that most things in life are for the better rather than the worst. When I have a really bad day, I try to think of what good things happened that day, too. This little technique helps me to learn to think optimistically naturally and have an overall better perspective on life.
Be nice to other people – yes, it’s that simple. When I’m nice to others, it generates good feelings for both me and the other person. Everybody wins and it’s such an easy way to start thinking and living more positively.
One last, but really easy way to eliminate negativity and to be more positive is simply to have more fun. It leads to excitement, laughter and joy; what else do you need? Since I’ve made it a priority to go out more and have fun in places I know I’ll like, I’ve found it a lot easier to think more positively, naturally.
What are some of the ways you try to stay more positive? Leave me a comment and let me know!